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But after they said goodbye and he messaged her saying he wanted to see her again so there’s obviously some kind of cultural dislocate there.
Anthony: I’ve heard so many stories like that where people go on dates and it’s a weird, awkward situation but then later they message you as if it was the best date ever. I feel that Japanese men scare quite easily and as a foreigner you won’t know exactly what it was that freaked them out.
Rebecca: I wasn’t so attracted to Japanese men but now after living here for three years I would say I definitely am. Christa: I’ve always been attracted to Japanese men, even when I was young, so I did some research before I came here and I saw that generally they are interested but they’re very shy about approaching women so you may need to approach them.
So now when I go home I immediately look for the nearest Asian guy like ‘Hey! Christa: I was with a girlfriend in Shibuya and two men approached us on the street and we went out for drinks. *Laughter* Rebecca: Exactly, each time that’s happened to me the guy has been pretty hammered.
Rebecca: Yeah I don’t know any of my Japanese girlfriends who would directly approach a guy.
Christa: It seems to be through organized group events like ‘gokon’.
Chiara: Or if they don’t want to talk to you then there’s just silence. I’ve noticed that if I show a little too much enthusiasm or come across as too independent, that will trigger silence.
Like if I initiate wanting to meet that puts some guys off here.
Even my boyfriend who is pretty confident had to wait for a friend of mine to set-up a dinner where we could meet before he could work up the courage to ask me out. Christa: Yeah I went on this one date and the guy spent most of the time on his phone and it was really awkward.
Chiara: I heard too that Japanese men weren’t so interested in foreign women but my experience is kind of the opposite.
But you don’t know if they’re interested in you as a person or because of your foreignness.
With Japanese guys you don’t know how much of their behavior is cultural or is actually their personality.
And at the same time it’s hard to know, like we were saying earlier, if the guy is interested in you mostly because you’re foreign and the kind of status that that brings with it.
My friend, an American guy, has experienced a lot of first dates where the women already bring up kids and marriage and he’s like ‘woah, what about your favorite music first?